Intentional Prioritizing

I miss the days when it was just the two of us – Nicandgloria. Life was less busy then; not as many projects on the go. No one else to take care of or plan our schedules around other than each other. If we felt like going out to eat, we did. If we felt like sleeping in on the weekend, we did. Our days and evenings were quieter and our conversations were uninterrupted. We didn’t have to worry about what we said and if we would hear that phrase repeated a couple hours later as the kids played. There was more time for each other – date nights, drives to nowhere particular, evening walks while holding hands. Just the two of us.

Now we have house projects, work, and a handful of kids. It feels like there is always another thing that comes up, another obligation that takes time. Quality family time is hard to find and quality me and Nic time even harder. The days blur by into weeks and months without me even knowing where they have gone or how we spent them.

Looking back, the times that stand out from the blur are the ones where I was intentional in how I spent my time. Weekly date nights before Guin was born. The weekend we went camping when Guin was a baby. Days of waking up with the sun to sew for my farmer’s market adventure. Hours spent in the summer sun, just soaking in life.

It was easier to spend intentional time with Nic before because there was less going on. But I just need to decide to be intentional with how I spend my time now, and maybe get a bit more creative with scheduling things. It means saying ‘no’ more often to the items that aren’t as important. (Guilt free saying no to scrubbing my toilets – yes!) It means combining errands and being more efficient.

Because I know that I have enough time and energy for what I prioritize.