There Is Another Way
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A healthy mom, a whole mom, is worth the world.
To the husband that loves her.
To the kids that want to be taken care of by her.
Who want only her - only their mom.
What if even with all of this darkness, this brokenness, she is still worthy? Still worthy of love, still worthy to be here.
To belong.
This is her place; these are her people.
Why has she fought it for so long?
Why has she pushed so hard against what it means to be mom?
This is who she is, at the core of her.
It’s like denying herself. Fighting herself on everything.
The difference is leaning into it – leaning into all of it.
The heartache.
The frustration.
The anger.
The darkness.
The shame.
It’s knowing that pain is part of this life. Accepting it.
It’s letting go of the rest – letting go of the shoulds, the shouldn’ts, the arguing with what is. Letting go of all the unnecessary suffering that is being layered on top of that pain.
Because pain is okay; suffering is not.
Pain comes with being alive; suffering is created by ourselves.
And when we can see this from a place of responsibility, not blame, that’s when we’re able to change.
That’s when we’re able to love ourselves enough to give us what we need.
To finally listen to what’s inside.
To finally move through it.
What is this health, this wholeness, worth to you?
What would it mean to you, to finally work through it and be the mom that you want to be?
Right now, it feels like there are two options:
1. Doing what you’re doing now: continuing to try get better, but beating yourself up every time you go down the same cycle. Wondering if this is how you are, and if you will ever be able to fully change.
2. Or leaving. You know this isn’t what you actually want, but sometimes it feels like the easiest way out.
There is another way.
You can be a mom AND be happy.
Even with depression. Even with this brokenness. Even with all of the parts of you that you don’t like, that you don’t want to look at, that you wish would just go away.
This is the way.
Let me show you.
