Will I ever be happy again?
/I used to wonder if I would ever be happy again. Like truly, down-to-my-bones, happy.
I thought maybe it was just something that other people got to have; not me.
This led to a lot of comparing and despairing, self pity, and giving up without even trying. Or that’s not to say that I wasn’t trying, but it was a lot of hoping and trying without actually expecting things to change. Then when I would feel the same heavy feeling, I thought Of course. Here it is again. Why did I even think that I could change?
Opening up about these parts of my life to people I’ve never met before isn’t always easy. The old shame of You’re a terrible mom for feeling this way sometimes wants to sneak in again. The judgement that I shouldn’t feel this way. Other people will think something’s wrong with you, or pity you rears its head.
But I do it because I know that there are believing moms out there who feel the same way. Who have so much shame and judgement of what they’re going through, that it feels easier to stay silent and suffer alone. I do it because the more that I share, the more I get these words out of my head, the easier it is to let go of them and be more of who I want to be.
I do it because I hope that you will find yourself in my story, and know that it doesn’t have to be this way.
You don’t need to stay a depressed mom forever.
It is possible for you to be the happy and loving mom that you always thought you would be, and you don’t need to wait years for that to happen. You don’t need to wait until you’re done having babies in order to enjoy your life.
That is available to you right now. Today.
It’s okay if you have shame and fear and judgement and self loathing and all of the things – so will each and every mom that is in the group with you.
You will hear yourself in their stories as well, and see that you aren’t alone. You will slowly but surely start to see that there is nothing wrong with you, that you are not broken, and that you can Be Happy Again.
Whatever story your brain is telling you about why you can’t possibly join us in the group, know that it’s exactly that – a story. Not truth, not fact, not just how life is.
A story that is optional.
If you’d like to work through that story so that you can become the mom you always thought you would be, schedule a call with me here.
And if you’d like to let that thought go to the wayside completely, sign up for your spot in Be Happy Again right here. (Payment plan option here.)
You always get to decide what you believe to be true, not your brain.
You.
Love,
Gloria
P.S. Here’s what my client said about her experience in my last group:
This six month deep dive into life coaching has changed me. I have learned so much! I’ve gained a huge toolbox to help me cope with the ups and especially the downs, of life. I’m much more comfortable accepting who I am, and loving myself. As a result, I have so much more love to give those around me. I will keep doing this work, reaching for the goals I want to keep setting; and feeling so much more equipped to do so!
This is the same client who, when I told her the price, said That’s a lot of money. When I asked her why she joined anyway, she said:
I just decided that I was worth it! I thought my husband spends money to take care of himself, so it’s not wrong for me to do the same.
How right she is, and you can decide the same.
