Leadership

I’ve never thought of myself as a leader.

The word leadership has never sparked anything inside of me – it just brought images to my mind of a stuffy boardroom with suits and ties, as they drone on and on about some chart of some sort.

But leading is so much more than that, as I’m coming to realize, and this quote sums it up perfectly:

              “Leadership is not about titles, status, and wielding power. A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for recognizing the potential in people and ideas, and has the courage to develop that potential.” -Brene Brown, Dare To Lead

This is what it means to lead.

It’s recognizing the struggles of young(er) (because I mean is thirty still young?;) believing moms, and figuring out what we can do to make them easier.

It’s understanding why we get postpartum depression, and learning how to move through it with less suffering.

It’s learning these things for myself, and then learning to teach them in a way that you can understand and apply in your life as well.

Is it easy?

In some ways, yes. The flow that I feel when I sit down to write these letters to you is easy. The flow that I feel when I’m coaching a client is easy.

And in some ways, no. Being one of the first to talk about hard things like depression, shame, resentment, rage isn’t always easy. Worrying about if I’m saying it right, or if you will understand, or if you’ll get the right impression, isn’t always easy.

That’s where courage comes in - and courage doesn’t always feel easy either. It’s doing the thing that I believe to be right, even when my brain is telling me it’s a terrible idea or people will think you’re believing incorrectly or whatever else it likes to spew at me.

It takes courage to stand strong for the end vision where believing moms can simply be happy in their life, and to keep taking steps in that direction, even when it feels hard.

Because the thing I keep coming back to, is there is another way.

You don’t need to keep crossing your fingers you get a longer break this time.

You don’t need to keep blowing up at your kids over nothing.

You don’t need to keep resenting your husband his long days at work.

It’s okay that this is how you feel right now, but it also doesn’t mean you need to stay there.

You can be a happy and loving mom of a big family.

You can learn to control your emotions so that you are raising your children more of how you want to.

You can open up to and love on your husband when he gets home from his long day of work.

This other way is exactly what I’ll be teaching you in the free class on Tuesday, called How To Be Happy Again.

I’ll show you why what you’re doing isn’t working, and what you need to do instead. I’ll show you why it’s different for believing moms, and why it’s so important to have the right support in place to do this work.

You’ll have a chance to share your story, to hear other mom’s stories who have been through the same thing as you, and to ask any questions that you have about postpartum depression, motherhood, and faith.

I’ll also be talking about my group that starts the week after, called Be Happy Again, where I will be teaching you to apply what you learned in the free class. This is where the follow through comes in – working through those stories that have been holding you back from becoming the mom that you want to be.

Because it’s one thing to know that there’s another way, and another thing to actually live that other way. That is what I want for each and every one of you.

If this is what you want too, sign up for the free class here, and the group here. (Payment plan here.)

Imagine being in a room with nine other moms who have been through exactly what you’ve been through. They get you on a whole other level than most are able to. You don’t need to explain what you mean, because they understand. They are able to hold space and love you, even when you’re at your darkest – because they have been there, too.

This won’t be a group where we all complain and leave the meeting feeling heavier than before it started. This is a group where we bring the hard things in our lives, acknowledge our pain, and find the way through it to the life that we want.

Your spot is waiting for you.