What Keeps Us Stuck

I’ve really been tossing this question over and over in my head. What keeps us stuck? What keeps us from changing? If you knew that help was available, and the life that you wanted was available, why wouldn’t you go for it?

Short answer: Our brain.

Long answer: All of the excuses that our brain feeds us that we believe, whether we realize they’re optional or not.

Our brain wants us to do what’s safe, what’s known, what’s easy – because that’s what our brain thrives on. It doesn’t want to try a new routine, because what if we fail? Or what if that reality is worse than the one that we’re currently living?

Our brain loves to give us all of these reasons to not try something new.

It will never work.

You’re not worth it.

That’s too scary.

Why even bother trying?

It’s never worked before.

It won’t work for you.

This actually isn’t so bad.

You’ll get better on your own.

Any of these resonate?

I’ve been going through some of the feedback from past clients, and I absolutely love reading their responses. Every single one of them has changed from their time spent working with me. Here are a few of my favorite things they said about it:

“I definitely encourage [trying] it! You only have one life and it’s worth investing in yourself/ future self – which is also investing in your children. It will help you see a way where you didn’t see one before.”

“It’s put new thoughts in my head. One example was the new thought that we came up with: My husband gets to be exactly who he is and I’ll love him anyway. I feel like I don’t need to wait for anything from him. That he can be and do what he wants and that’s the person I love. I appreciate him a whole lot more. It makes me a better wife and a better mom to our kids.”

“For me, it’s really hard to speak about deep things and to tell someone what and how I actually feel. It’s good that I did the six-week package because it’s made me feel more confident in myself and it’s helped me to be able to open up without feeling embarrassed or overthinking everything I’m going to say.”

“The biggest breakthrough I had is learning that my thoughts control my emotions. Changing my thoughts about a struggle I was having helped me not feel negative about it. I learned so much from every call!”

“Coaching is about recognising thoughts and thought patterns and learning to change the ones that aren’t serving you. Also learning about how the brain works so we can understand why we think a certain way. My biggest breakthrough was actually just a little shift that gave me more room in my every day life. I was struggling with what I thought was discontentment but learned that really it was guilt, and then with the help of you found an easy new thought to help me.”

The reason that I share these is because I want you to see the effect that coaching has in our lives. And the effect that it could have in your life too.

As moms, it’s so easy to take care of everyone else’s needs and forget about our own. We think we don’t have the time to work on our stuff every week, so we push it off and hope that we get better eventually. We think that we don’t have the money to invest in coaching or therapy, because that money is needed for our families. We don’t see the impact that investing this time or money would have on not only us, but on our families.

So I just want to leave you with this question: What impact would this kind of change have on you, your husband, and your children?

You can keep doing what you’re doing, and continue to live the same life that you’re living.

Or you can try something that you’ve never done before, and begin to live a life that you’ve never had before.

Coming from the other side of that leap of faith, I can tell you that it’s so much better than fighting that same struggle.

When you’re ready to take that leap of faith, you know where to find me.

And until then, I’m just sending a lot of love to you.