Being An Intentional Mom

I had a live a few weeks ago on being an intentional mom, and I thought that I would share the main messages here. As the holidays are coming up a new year is right around the corner, we start to think about how we are living. How we want to be living. What we want our new year to look like. This is a perfect time to start evaluating where we are at, and where we want to be, and what the difference is between the two.

First of all, what does it mean to be intentional? It’s choosing this life. Every day. It’s waking up in the morning and deciding that this is how I’m going to spend my day. It’s a matter of thinking on purpose. It’s a matter of feeling on purpose. It’s a matter of BEING on purpose. Right? It’s choosing how you are going to be, and then actually doing it.

Some of us like to plan out our days, to schedule what is happening when. Some of us like to be more spontaneous, more go with the flow. Whatever type you are, you can still be intentional in it. it’s simply a matter of creating the time to do what you want. Spending the time doing the things that you want to be doing, instead of whatever is easiest.

Also being proactive vs. reactive. But that’s a story for another day.

So what keeps us from being intentional? We set our plans, we dream up all the dreams for how we want our life to be, and then we don’t follow through. We see all of the things that we want to change, but then we don’t know how to actually change them. Which equals us just going back to how we were doing things before.

The short answer to this is (say it with me now): OUR BRAIN. But really, it’s how our brain is wired. It’s wired to seek pleasure. Avoid pain. Conserve energy. Meaning anything that takes extra work, is unknown and not easy means our brain doesn’t want to do it – our primitive brain anyway. Our primitive brain loves autopilot mode. It wants us to just do what we’ve always done, whether it’s getting us the result that we want or not. Our brain doesn’t discriminate on which habits are good and which are bad. It just sees them as habit = easy = lets do it.

With this information, the question becomes so what do we do about it? How do we be intentional? The first step is slowing it down. Becoming aware. With this awareness, we also need to be willing to be uncomfortable. Going off of autopilot isn’t easy or comfortable, but it is always so worth it. also have a direction of where you are headed. Write down all of the areas in your life where you want to focus your energy, and describe what you want them to look like. YOU HAVE TO WRITE IT DOWN. If you don’t know where you are headed, how can you get there, right?

So once you have broken down those areas, then I want you to also list all of the reasons that you aren’t doing it yet. All of the reasons that you aren’t living that way yet. This list will feel like very justified reasons for not being there. Maybe they even feel like impossible things to get past. Things that you couldn’t possibly just work through or “change your thoughts about”. But I’m telling you that you can. These are the only obstacles between where you are now and where you want to be.

Really. the only thing.

If you want to get past them, to work through them, you can.

Now that you have where you want to end up, and you know what is standing in your way, it’s just a matter of going to do it. Going to apply this work. Because as you all know, it doesn’t change anything to have a head full of good ideas and knowledge and not do anything with them. Nothing will change if it’s all just in your head. So go out there and do it. go be the intentional mom that you want to be, that you know you can be.

You’ve got this.

Want an extra hand with this being intentional stuff?

Ready to apply this work for three months straight and see your life completely changed at the end of it? Message me and we will set up a call.

It’s as easy as that.