The Problem With DIY

DIY.

It’s a fun way to create what you want, without spending the money. How many of you are DIY-ers? You find pictures on Pinterest, on Instagram, and then you figure out how you can create the same thing yourself.

I love to DIY. It’s so satisfying to stretch my brain, to look at a finished product and then to replicate it with my own two hands. To create something and watch it come to life.

This is what I tried to do with my healing, too. I thought that I was so aware of my thoughts and emotions, that of course I could heal from my depression by myself. I read all the books, I listened to all the podcasts, I took all the free trainings.

This is an important step in our healing process, where we are doing all the work that we can. We are taking that first step in admitting just to ourselves that something isn’t right and that we are worth the effort.

But DIY can only get you so far. There are parts of your story where you are like a fish in water. You don’t know that you’re in water, because it’s all you’ve ever known. Our brains aren’t programmed to separate our thoughts from the facts. We automatically believe that the thoughts that we are thinking, are just true. And if those thoughts aren’t serving you, that’s what we need to work on.

But why do we hesitate to put that money into ourselves? Why do we hesitate to invest in our healing? Why is it so scary to put that money behind our words?

Because we are afraid. We say that we can heal, but do we actually believe it?

We say that we want a better life, but do we actually think that better life is possible?

Where are you holding yourself back?

That’s what you need to get to work on. Not reading the next book or listening to the next podcast.

You already have everything that you need inside of you.

See, DIY keeps us stuck. We think that we are improving, because we are learning and we are seeing some changes. But we are still staying safe. We aren’t putting money behind our words, we aren’t putting ourselves really out there, we still have nothing to lose.

And if we don’t have anything to lose, what do we have to gain?