River Of Misery

What is the river of misery? Are you in it? Are you going through it?

Where you are now is the pond of misery. It’s just a pond, it’s not a terrible place to be. You’re just kind of uncomfortable, you know that something could be better. You have a dream, a goal that you think of but are scared to start it. Maybe it’s a habit, something that you want to change.

But this pond is safe. It’s known. Your brain likes it here because it knows what to expect, and it can be right about how life is.

From the pond flows a river, and on the other side of the river is dry land. That land is where your goal lives. Your dream. Whatever life or thing you are thinking of – it’s on the other side. And in order to get there, you have to swim through the river.

Now the river, as you can imagine, isn’t very fun. It’s hard to swim across. Our brains don’t like this at all. It’s uncomfortable, it’s unknown, it’s scary. Our brain likes to tell us things like

This is too much work.

It’s not going to work.

It’s probably not worth all of this effort.

Let’s just go back to the pond. It wasn’t so bad there.

The reason this is all so uncomfortable is because you are in cognitive dissonance. And what that is, is holding two contradicting beliefs at the same time. Your brain wants to be right, and it can’t be right if there are two thoughts that don’t match up. The struggle is which one will win.

Now there’s the good news- our brains don’t like to be uncomfortable, so one thought will win out over the other. You will either go back to the pond, or you will cross the river and reach the land.

This is exactly what I help my clients to do. I help them cross that river.

I show them what their brain is doing to keep them stuck in the pond. I guide them across so that the river is less miserable and more intentional.

I show them that they actually are safe, that they actually are headed in the direction that they want to be going. I remind them (and their brains) of why they are crossing the river, of what is on the other side of it, and why they chose to cross the river in the first place. I help them see that the river isn’t so bad, and that it’s 100% worth it.

Are you ready to cross that river?

Or if you are in the river, are you ready to get to the other side faster?

It all starts with that free call.

Keep swimming, momma. You’ve got this.