Uncommitted

Where are you not fully committed in your life?
It’s not always easy to recognize indecision. Sometimes it’s clear – like the fact that I don’t want to decide which color to paint my house.
Other times we don’t see that we’re indulging in indecision, because it feels so true.

How often do you go from being irritated that your husband doesn’t get what you really need, to feeling bitter and thinking that you would be better off if you had never married him?
This isn’t a matter of you not loving him enough.
It’s not a matter of you made the wrong decision, or married the wrong man.

It’s just that your brain isn’t fully committed to this life that you currently have.
It’s simply a matter of your brain, continually scanning for ways to avoid the emotions you’re experiencing right now.
It’s looking for what is happening in your life to blame for how you are feeling.
Not because there’s something wrong with you.
It’s just because you have a human brain.

Your happiness doesn’t come from outside of you – it’s something that you create in your own life, no matter what your life looks like.
Right now, your brain is believing that if your life were different – then it would be easier to be happy.
But you get to decide to be happy. You get to decide that this life, this exact one that you have today, is the one that you are going to be happy in.

And when you make that decision, you need to let go of Plan B.
You will need to continue letting go of those indulgent thoughts of My life would be easier if…
It’s a simple decision: I choose to commit to this husband. To these kids. To this life. To me.
To continue to choose it each and every day.

As you work through these thoughts and feelings, you will need a lot of love and understanding.
Instead of judging yourself for feeling this way, or resisting whatever emotions are coming up for you - ask yourself why.
Why am I feeling this way?
Where is this coming from?
And it's okay to be where I am.

This is where the change is made.

It’s hard doing this work on our own. We question ourselves.  We wonder if we’re doing it right, if we’re even getting anywhere with all of this pain. If you’re done doing it yourself, hit reply. We’ll schedule a call to see if this is what you need.