Arguing With Reality

How often are we arguing with what is?

My husband should come home earlier.

My kids shouldn’t fight.

I should be able to get out of bed earlier.

People should just do the right thing.

I should’ve waited to get married.

I shouldn’t have made that mistake.

Ever had thoughts like these?

How do you feel when you think them?

Heavy, regret, resentment, helpless.

We know that we can’t change other people, we know that we can’t change the past.

And yet we spend so much time arguing with both. Believing that if they changed, or if this one thing had just gone differently, then our life would be so much easier. We would be so much happier. Fill in the blank with what your brain believes would change about your life.

This gets us nowhere. We spend our time spinning in those negative emotions, not finding a solution let alone enjoying what is in front of us.

I remember the quote from Hellen Keller, Often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.

What are you forgetting to see in your husband, when you are spending your time wishing he came home earlier?

What are you forgetting to see in your kids, when you think that they fight too much?

What are you not seeing in your life, when you think you didn’t get married at the right time?

What are you forgetting to appreciate in your sister in law, when you think that she should be differently?

We don’t even recognize that this is what we are doing, and we don’t recognize these thoughts as optional.

How often are you getting out of your head, to look at what is going on inside of there? Without judging what is happening, but viewing those sentences without attachment.

What do you see in your life right now, that isn’t how you want it to be? Maybe it’s how you are showing up as a mom. Maybe it’s your relationship with your husband. Or your relationship with yourself.

Whatever it is, it’s fixable.

100%.

You’re not crazy, you’re not the only one, and this is completely normal.

We all have areas that we struggle in, that we need to grow in.

It’s called being a human.

It’s called life.

I help you work through those areas, so you can start living yours.