Healing Isn't Selfish

Many of my clients come to the free call having never spent this amount of money on themselves before.

They worry that it’s selfish. They feel like they’re using money that would be better spent elsewhere.

But what you must know, is that spending money to heal, to feel better, to be yourself again, is the least selfish thing you can do.

I want you to think about how you are with your hubby, your kids, your friends, when you’re down in the dark hole of depression.

Think about what your relationships look like when you’re spinning in your head with anxiety and fighting off a panic attack.

In that moment, do you have much to give?

The truth about mental illness is that it keeps you focused on yourself; your own pain, your own suffering.

I don’t say this to give you more cause to beat yourself up – only to show you that by not healing and trying to avoid selfishness, you aren’t avoiding it at all.

Healing and focusing inward so that you can get clear on you, is exactly what gives you the space to share all of the love and goodness that is inside of you.

And if you just told me in your head that you don’t have love and goodness inside of you, that I don’t get it, I want to tell you that you’re wrong.

You’ve been living this way for so long that you forget who you truly are.

You’re grieving who you thought you would be – you became a mom because you wanted all of the love, all of the chaos, but now when you look inside of you, there’s nothing in there to give.

You fear that this nothingness is who you are. And if it’s who you are, then what’s the point? Why bother?

When what you believed to be true at your core is shaken, it makes sense that you want to give up.

I believed that I would be a happy and loving mom, and when it turned out that I wasn’t, I literally didn’t know what to do.

What I want you to do, is number one stop loathing yourself for being this way. It isn’t fun, it isn’t who you want to be, but the only way to get better is to let it be okay that this is where you are.

The second thing I want you to do, is to consider the possibility that doing whatever it takes for you to heal is the least selfish thing you can do.

Finding that love and that joy inside of you again is possible – I know this because it’s what I’ve been through myself, and it’s what I teach my clients to do as well.

If you’re ready to learn more about how to make this happen in your life, you can schedule a call here to get on the waitlist for the Fall 2022 group; I’ll be taking a small handful of you through my process to become the mom you always thought you would be.

Learning how to be happy again isn’t just for you – don’t let your brain fool you.

This work is for you, it’s for your husband, it’s for your kids, it’s for your friends, it’s for the people that you see in the grocery store.

Making peace with your dark helps you to spread your light.